Trying to figure out how many invitations we need to order

JennaMichelle88

I'm going through our guest list actually listing out every guest and separating everyone who gets their own invite. Two questions:

1) 2 friends of ours just got engaged and I don't think they live together. We were friends with both of them before they started dating and agree that we would invite them both if they were not together. Should we send them separate invites? It seems weird not to invite a couple together, but we don't want one of them to feel like they're being invited as a SO and not a true invitee. Not really a big deal, just curious.

2) This might get me in trouble with you guys. I'm not trying to act like my situation is so different than everyone else's, but I apologize if it comes off that way. I have a few cousins in college who have SOs. Etiquette says to send them their own invitation and invite the SO. However, knowing my family dynamic, if they come it will be with their parents, not separately with their SOs. I can guarantee that if I invite their SOs they'll think it's weird. Should I still follow etiquette? (Bring on the flames!)

itzMS

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[QUOTE]I'm going through our guest list actually listing out every guest and separating everyone who gets their own invite. Two questions: 1) 2 friends of ours just got engaged and I don't think they live together. We were friends with both of them before they started dating and agree that we would invite them both if they were not together. Should we send them separate invites? It seems weird not to invite a couple together, but we don't want one of them to feel like they're being invited as a SO and not a true invitee. Not really a big deal, just curious. 
<strong>Call the woman up (these are your friends, right?), and say "Hey, Annie, Congrats on your engagement! FI & I are gathering addresses for our wedding invitations, where should we send the invite for you and Mike?"
 </strong>2) This might get me in trouble with you guys. I'm not trying to act like my situation is so different than everyone else's, but I apologize if it comes off that way. I have a few cousins in college who have SOs. Etiquette says to send them their own invitation and invite the SO. However, knowing my family dynamic, if they come it will be with their parents, not separately with their SOs. I can guarantee that if I invite their SOs they'll think it's weird. Should I still follow etiquette? (Bring on the flames!)
<strong>Sorry. You need to be the bigger person, even if your family will think it's "weird". Invite every person 18 and over with their own invitation, with their significant other. You can't possibly assume someone's feelings and following the proper etiquette is always necessary.</strong>
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JennaMichelle88

Thanks, itzMS. I suppose it's better to err on the side of etiquette.