How do you handle...

A bridemaid backing out 6 months before the wedding?

First, the reason she cannot be part of our wedding is understandable and legitimate, so this is not about how to handle the friendship.

How do you handle this?  We invited all the other wedding party members 4-5 months ago, and now we are only 6 months away from the wedding...

Can you ask someone else?  No one really comes to mind as a definite, and how do you not make it sound like a backhanded insult?  "Hi, yeah, one of my bridesmaids backed out and I thought of you as a replacement..."

HELP!  Has anyone else ever had to deal with this?  (Really hope not...)
-Upset and Unsure

Comments

  • I don't think you really need to do anything. Just keep the bridal party the way you have it. It's ok to have an uneven number of people in your bridal party. Or you could ask a sister, sister-in-law, soon to be sister-in-law, etc. Good luck!
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