Long story short, My Fiance and I have been together about 5.5 yrs. We've been engaged for 1.5 yrs. We have been talking about getting married for at least 4. So when he first went to Basic training for National Guard I was thinking we'd be able to get married by May of 2010....so way back when I told my friend i would like for her to be my MoH. She's been with her Fiance for 6 yrs. I dont know how long they discussed getting married before they got engaged 4 yrs ago. She asked me to be her MoH when they got engaged, but they kept putting off their wedding plans for yrs. Then, as soon as my fiance proposed I picked our date almost 2 yrs in advance and have been planning my eyes out. I found out this past Dec that they picked a date (after 4 yrs of having NO date even in mind) and that their date is less than 2 months before my wedding. Now it is crunch time and the 2 of us barely speak! Over the past 4 yrs we have drifted (despite my attempts to keep in contact) and we have nothing in common or anything to discuss when we get together, there are always other people around, its almost impossible to get her one on one. I think I made a mistake in asking her to be my Moh because in the time that we were drifting, I became much closer to a friend I've known much longer and who can read me like a book. While watching 27 Dresses with my other BMs my MoH said she woudlnt want someone in the bathroom with her holding her dress while she peed. Well... at the time I wouldnt either.... but thinking about it later, if I REALLY needed someone to help me with my dress in the ladies room, it wouldnt be my MoH at all. It would be my other friend.
I think you can deduce my dilema with that info in mind. The only way I see out of this is for me to retitle my Maid of Honor as Matron as she will be married by my wedding and the other friend will not be so she can have the Title of MAID of Honor. Is this low? Would it make me the crappiest Bride ever? I know how stressed I am trying to plan my own wedding in addition to hosting her Bachelorette (totally lost because I hardley know her anymore) and since it was her Fiance's idea to have their wedding this year instead of next year, I know SHE is stressed about having to rush her wedding (even though they've had 4 yrs to plan) so me re-titling her or asking her if she would like to step down (still be a BM) would alleviate a WHOLE bucket load of stress.
This issue has been haunting me since New Years and my wedding is 5 months away.
WHAT DO I DO????
