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Uninvited guests attending the wedding.

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My fiance and I are having a small destination wedding. 2 people who were not invited to the wedding already booked their flight and hotel. They found out our wedding info from another family member. We were having a small wedding for two reasons, first we only wanted it to be our closest family and friends and second we simply cannot afford a big wedding. What do I do at this point since they have already booked and paid? How do I prevent future people from booking? We did send out actual invites to our specific guest list, the 2 who have booked did not receive one of our invites
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_uninvited-guests-attending-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1f7371f6-d21a-43fd-89c3-19f5cfcf25bePost:89a7c4f4-fe4f-4164-8cbc-2f1dc361346e">Uninvited guests attending the wedding.</a>:
    [QUOTE]My fiance and I are having a small destination wedding. 2 people who were not invited to the wedding already booked their flight and hotel. They found out our wedding info from another family member. We were having a small wedding for two reasons, first we only wanted it to be our closest family and friends and second we simply cannot afford a big wedding. What do I do at this point since they have already booked and paid? How do I prevent future people from booking? We did send out actual invites to our specific guest list, the 2 who have booked did not receive one of our invites
    Posted by brittanylemos[/QUOTE]
    You really can't control who books a flight to your wedding destiation or who stays in that hotel (unless you're Beyonce and can pay for the whole hotel to be booked for the wedding).  I would talk to your venue to make sure they know that your wedding is a private event.  If it really concerns you, you could even ask for the venue staff to have a guest list.
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  • kmbryant2413kmbryant2413
    You find out who told them and make them clear it up, and tell them they are not invited no matter what they booked. It's not on you, it's on whoever thought it 'okay' to share your invite. They did not RSVP with you, therefore you are not required to accommodate them.
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  • KnottieKnottie
    edited March 2013
    How presumptuous of them!

    Are you against them coming? Can you afford 2 more?

    If you aren't against them coming, and can make 2 more work, I would just send them an invitation. Obviously they like you enough to fly out to your wedding. I love a lot of my long distance friends dearly but I wouldn't fly out for a weekend for 90% of them.

    ETA: If you don't want them there, whoever told them should tell them they arent invited.
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  • AddieL73AddieL73
    That family member needs to contact them. This is their mess, not yours.
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  • LingerLonger1LingerLonger1
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_uninvited-guests-attending-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1f7371f6-d21a-43fd-89c3-19f5cfcf25bePost:0c7bc4ef-0aa6-42d1-aff6-1abf5d8ed221">Re: Uninvited guests attending the wedding.</a>:
    [QUOTE]How presumptuous of them! <strong>Are you against them coming? Can you afford 2 more?</strong> If you aren't against them coming, and can make 2 more work, I would just send them an invitation. Obviously they like you enough to fly out to your wedding. I love a lot of my long distance friends dearly but I wouldn't fly out for a weekend for 90% of them. ETA: If you don't want them there, whoever told them should tell them they arent invited.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]
    It doesn't matter.  They were not invited.

    OP- You have no obligation in this situation.  Talk to the family member that invited them and clarify that you've sent invitations to those that will be welcome at the wedding.  If you did not personally invite someone they will not be welcome at the event.  Then call your venue and make sure they know what happened.  They can work with you to prevent people you didn't invite from attending.
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  • mrsbobfilsonmrsbobfilson
    i agree- the family member that told them all about it should call them and 'say i'm sorry if i gave you the wrong impression, her wedding is by invitation only!" or you can call them and say the same thing. maybe they can get a refund??
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  • missaxmissax
    Wow that's a ballsy move.
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