Etiquette

Inviting Coworkers?

I am struggling with whether or not to invite all my coworkers. I work with a small group of people in my department. There are 8 people total and 7 of them are women. We are having a small-ish wedding of about 60-70 people, and only planned on inviting family and close friends. I wasn't planning on inviting all my coworkers, but the reason I am questioning it is because my MOH and one of my bridesmaids are also coworkers. I have known my MOH for over 6 years and we were friends way before working together at this job. I met the bridesmaid through our job, but we have grown close over the last 3 years at work. We all three hang out together outside of work, including birthday parties, baby showers, etc. Obviously we are close friends, but I am worried that it will seem rude if I only invite them and not my other coworkers. My MOH, bridesmaid, and myself are all in our twenties and the other women are all older. We all get along really well and routinely go to lunch together, but I do not hang out with the others outside of work. The ladies are all really sweet and were excited for me when they found out I was engaged. (They would always ask if my FI had proposed after every holiday, long weekend, etc.) I try not to talk about wedding stuff at work, but they ask me about finding my dress, venue, etc. One of them even offered to help make centerpieces! I am just torn on what to do. Inviting them would be adding about 12 people to the guest list.

Re: Inviting Coworkers?

  • If you can afford it I would invite them all but you don't have to.
  • It's completely your call.  It could be a nice gesture if you have the space, budget, and desire.  However, if you want to keep your wedding to just close family and friends, it's perfectly fine not to invite them.  As long as you keep wedding talk to a minimum at work, you're in the clear.
  • I am definitely inviting my boss and my assistant, but many not be able to afford the additional 5 couples that I'd like to invite. I've been with my company for 9 years and we are all very close and family-like.

    If 4 couples decline invites, then I will be inviting the rest of the group. I plan to do this by sending out the invites to the couples who are 99% likely to decline first (they are either really far or overseas) and I should get a pretty quick response from them.

    I will hold back the work invites to go out all at once, if I can invite them all, great. If not, just the 2 couples i intended to invite would go out. I feel like it's okay to do since they are separate and will have plenty of time to RSVP and wont know that I sent out invites to anyone else a week or two earlier
  • Thanks for he input. I would really like to invite them, but might not have it in the budget. I just really don't want to offend them by not inviting them.
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